Co-worker conflicts

Just like our relatives, we usually have no choice in the matter when it comes to choosing our co-workers. On the job you are thrown together daily with people you must work with. Of course being the considerate human being that you are, you want to get along well with all your co-workers.Just like our relatives, we usually have no choice in the matter when it comes to choosing our co-workers. On the job you are thrown together daily with people you must work with. Of course being the considerate human being that you are, you want to get along well with all your co-workers.

There are many ways to handle poor co-worker relations, however most people tend to do one of two things: One, complain about it to someone else, or two, ignore the problem. Complaining to someone else may make you feel better by getting it “off your chest,” but it does nothing to resolve the problem. By ignoring the problem, people hope the problem will go away.When a problem doesn’t go away and even escalates, you must do something. Your goal is not to compound the problem by making this confrontation abusive or a spectator sport. Suggestions:

• Find a time and place where you can be alone and won’t be interrupted. Perhaps a walk outside or an empty conference room. Maybe even take the co-worker out to lunch.
• Start off on a positive note. Let them know the things you value about them. Keep in mind that you aren’t there to attack them, but to solve a problem.
• Be professional. Be straightforward and confident and get right to the point. Don’t beat around the bush.
• Discuss solutions. Instead of blaming, accusing, or threatening, work together on a solution. Try and find changes that will satisfy both of you.

Communication among co-workers is essential. Problems that undermine employee morale, hurt the company as well as the worker.

It is up to each employee to work in harmony with each other. With open communication and listening skills, you will be well prepared.